Part 1 "A Parenting Plan That Works"
This presentation answers the question "What is the big picture of our parenting?" What it is that we are actually trying to accomplish with our children. Fixing them is not the answer, doing something to our children so that they fix themselves is! This is absolutely done FIRST through the relationship with the child, adult or young. This is a relationship seminar that provides action steps for causing certain emotions in your children that cause them to make effective choices.
The end result is children get off drugs, recover from mental illness, correct their own behaviour, and avoid these problems in the first place. The most amount of prevention tasks will occur during this presentation.
This presentation is a "must see first" education. All other presentations are built on the model for parenting explained in this seminar. The model is not based on conventional clinical knowledge but instead based on 1000 troubled teens and young adults in north american culture between the years 1995 and 2011.
Often by itself this program is all that is needed to turn a young person around and start getting immediate changes in behaviour.
2 Day Weekend
Part 2 "Boundaries"
This seminar is by far the most popular. It instructs parents how to have "Boundaries" around behaviour, their time, their money, the way their children talk to them, and rules of the household. "Boundaries" are distinctly different than "punishments'. Boundaries teach and educate young people and punishments just push them away and cause them to resent the adults.
This course is Part 2 because the information in Part 1 is critical in order for "boundaries" to work properly for the adult. Not understanding the difference between a boundary and a punishment is the #1 mistake parents make and historically worsens their children's behaviour.
It very critcial to understand that"boundaries" manage a person' behaviour and they shape the thinking of a person to be more decisive and productive. What is meant by that is troubled people think a certain way, they live in a world where decision making is difficult and their logic is self destructive and not rational. This can be "undone" and the person's frame of mind can be changed to encourage recovery, responsibility, and respect. All necessary ingredients for success.
When parents use these strategies on troubled people they start to become "untroubled". When parents use these strategies on very young children, they can prevent their children from becoming troubled in the first place.
This program is very intense and gives parents some serious power in their relationship with their children. Combined with Part 1 education it gives parents %80 of what they need to know to get the results they are looking for.
2 Day Weekend
Part 3 "Implementation Program"
This is a program not a seminar. It is only available to the graduates of Part 1 and Part 2 of the education. It is designed to handle the specifics of each family as parents realize that there are some uniqueness to their own children. As well, when parents are faced with the daunting task of implementing boundaries in their household they often fear that a sudden change will cause their children to act "funny" and make it more difficult for parents to stick to their guns. This program creates a design for parents to gradually implement these changes and make it easier on the parents, and also impossible for the children to complain about the new "changes" from the parents.
It comes with a weekly and monthly structure to spend time with Tom in person. This program shares what many other parents have used in the past and participants can learn from each others questions and other family circumstances. This creates a sense of community amongst parents and gives them other parents to share their experiences with.
This program is focused on residency agreements in the home and getting one that works for each family. Setting up "Boundaries" that are custom tailored to each home. It also addresses the intense emotions that can occur between parenting partners when they are not on the same page as each other and do not want to fight about it.
It is in it's very definition, and implementation program.
6 month membership