WELCOME PARENTS

I teach parents how to help their struggling child. The struggles I help with are:
  • · Drug and alcohol abuse
  • · Mental illness
  • · Troubled behaviour in teens and adolescents.

I have separate programming for parents of young children and adult children. The programs I have and strategies I use are for the improvement of the parent. This is based on parents making a change in themselves, and their children having a reaction to that change in parenting thus causing the child to begin changing their own behaviour.

I have adjusted parts of this program for prevention sake. Very bluntly this means that if a parent takes action now they will have fewer problems later. I also teach that parents have the bigger problem than the child. Historically this has been confusing for many parents in my audiences before they receive my education, so I will politely make this clear:

1. The average addiction begins 2-3 years before the person ever consumes the drug. Click to expand
a. If you have found your child using drugs then you are at least 2 years late from early intervention.
2. Mental illness can begin upwards of 5-10 years before there is an apparent problem. Click to expand
a. If you have decided that your son/daughter could have a visible mental illness you are at least 5 years too late for early intervention.
b. Young people with mental health challenges will have problems with substance abuse later.
3. Troubled behaviour stems from a collection of psychological distresses that are not always prominent and obvious, but the child’s ability to function is still greatly hampered. Click to expand
a. Calling this a phase of normal teenage life is not a wise idea. If it was normal behaviour, your instincts wouldn’t have you looking at my website. b. Waiting until your child is in jail or the hospital means much of the damage has already been done. Not a good idea to wait and see what happens.
4. Parents are the one with the problem. Click here to expand if you have the courage
  1. Parents need to do the best they can raising children, if they don’t the guilt is tremendous.
  2. Troubled children (adult/young) have caused divorces amongst some couples.
  3. Parents have the maturity and self awareness to make conscious changes in themselves. Children have greater difficulty with this because they are young, immature, and inexperienced. The parents are the ones that need to make changes because they are most adept to it.
  4. The financial costs from troubled youth can be outstanding, far more expensive than getting help now.
  5. Children are highly responsive to behaviours and communication from adults. Therefore the adults need the change in their own behaviour as a priority over an immediate change in the youth’s behavior.
  6. Some of my friends are dead, the parents didn’t understand what early intervention meant, and they didn’t ask enough questions. You don’t want to know the look on their face at their child’s funeral.



PARENTS ARE THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEM

Trust me I know. Through my own experience as a drug dealer, drug user, and mentally ill person I’ve encountered over a 1000 people with every problem out there. Amongst the people who have suffered greatly and still are, I have found some consistencies about what their parents were doing. For the people I know who have made it through and are doing well, I have found their parents had consistencies as well. My own parents are the reason I saved my own life.

I am very good at explaining these consistencies. Explaining how they work, why they work, and how other parents can employ them. I speak in street smart terms. I teach solutions that people can relate to.

I am not fond of clinical theories and hypothesis that take years to prove and never produce logical action steps for parents to pursue. The vast majority of my clients have become disappointed with the government’s services, and the medical establishment’s ability to make a difference and give solutions that the parent can act on.

I am extremely well read, and very familiar with the latest in scientific discoveries, but I am adamant that real life problems need real life action steps that bring real life relief to parents and youth, and this needs to happen in real time and it needs to be based on real experience.




MY EXPERIENCE:

I grew up with over a 1000 troubled young people, selling drugs to them, using drugs with them, and eventually becoming mentally ill with many of my peers.

Now I lead a successful life and have conquered my problems with both alternative and clinical strategies. I teach these strategies to parents and it provides clarity and relief.

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PERSONAL GUARANTEE:

  • You will never hear anyone talk like I do, and make troubled youth make more sense to you than I can.
  • You will receive an action plan to follow that is extremely logical, and makes clear what you are supposed to do next.






“Our son relates to Tom very well. Tom really understands how young people work. By teaching us this knowledge, we have been able to help our son in ways we never could before. We will never know the “bullet” we dodged.”
- Ellen T, Mom and Interior designer
Sylvan Lake Ab, Canada